The first change that needs to happen to the surrogate mother’s regimen is nutrition. Of course, during the whole pregnancy the surrogate mother observes the principles of proper and healthy nutrition. This should also be followed after the birth, but with a few adjustments.
Firstly, your body needs plenty of warm drinks after the birth: you can use tea, herbal infusions or just lukewarm water. The mindset is very important: remember that you are not doing this now for the health of your unborn child, but for your own health and well-being.
Introduce soups and porridges into your diet. They will help you recover faster and soups are a great addition to plenty of warm drinks, helping to kick-start your metabolism and giving your stomach a chance to work properly.
Avoid chilled and dry food, even if fresh vegetables are involved. The fact is that after having a baby the whole body is under very serious stress, including the digestive system. Eating dry food can cause stomach cramps, especially if the situation is exacerbated by stress. You can afford some fruit, but only fruit that is easy to digest. Vegetables should definitely be included in your diet, but subject them to heat treatment: this will make it easier for your stomach to cope with them.
Find enough time to eat: follow the same principles that were followed during pregnancy. Meals should be frequent, divided, ideally up to 5 times a day plus 2-3 snacks. This is very important because it is easier for the body to cope with small intakes of food several times a day.
Just as much effort and time should be devoted to psychological recovery after the birth of a child and the transfer of the child to his parents. The fact is that even the most psychologically resilient woman develops an attachment to the baby she has carried in any case. This is normal, as you are caring for the unborn child. However, it is important that parting with the baby goes as easily as possible for you. This is why fertility clinics always have psychologists ready to help the surrogate mother not only during the pregnancy but also after the programme. Contact them and they will help you sort out your emotions and get back to your life as it was before the programme.
If you still have contact with the birth parents, you may want to contact them to find out if everything is OK with the baby. You might do this a short time after the birth, just to find out that the baby is doing well. But for the rest psychologists strongly recommend to stop communicating with the biological parents, because they have found the long-awaited family happiness, and the surrogate mother has nothing to do with this family one way or another. Also it is better not to maintain friendly relations because they may affect the welfare of both the surrogate mother and the child she has carried.